Sabar dan Maafkan

When we are hurt by someone, you will heard something like "..sabar, jgn marah.." atau "..releks, biarkan jer.." from people that care for you. Hohoho.. biasalah tu. However, for me, sabar saja tak cukup. Kerana, sabar ni, perasaan dia bagai pisau yang dicucuk ke hati kita tapi kita masih bertahan. Hasilnya, rasa sakit tu masih terasa sebenarnya, tapi kita tahan. Itu prinsip sabar. Lama-kelamaan, kesakitan yang kita pendam itu akan bertambah teruk, bernanah dan akan bertukar menjadi hatred; kebencian. Sebab itu juga, orang tua-tua kata "sabar pun ada hadnya".

Untuk itu, satu lagi perasaan yang perlu seiring dengan sabar ialah sikap memaafkan. Forgiving can actually release you from this pain. Sabar dan maafkan perbuatan mereka, dgn itu, kita akan membebaskan diri kita dari kesakitan dan kebencian. Hatred kills you from inside. Most people know this, but they choose to ignore it.

Good Decision vs Bad Decision

"Decision making" ataupun "membuat keputusan" ialah satu skill yang perlu ada dalam setiap orang. Kadangkala, keputusan yang perlu dibuat itu cukup mudah, but sometimes, it involves a more complicated matter. Contohnya, nak berak ke tak, nak invest ke tak, nak kawin ke tak.. Hohoho... Regardless, ramai yang keliru tentang membuat keputusan ni. Hakikatnya, seandainya kita mengambil kira semua perkara, tidak kira apa pun hasilnya, samada baik atau buruk, selepas kita membuat keputusan yang terancang, maka kita telahpun membuat keputusan dengan baik. But, if the decision that we make is without proper measure, walaupun hasilnya mungkin baik kerana tuah, atau buruk, maka, it is actually a bad decision.

Papehal pun, as what I always remind myself, the hardest thing about decision is not about making it, but to live on it. Adios!!

The value of life

Life has its own value. But how can we know the value? If we think it over, we will realise that an amout of money, will not have any value if we don't relate it to the things that we can buy with that such amount. As an example, RM500,000 will not have any value if it is not related to the things that can be buy with the value of the money. RM500,000 can only be really valued if we linked it to a big house, a big car and some other things that we can buy from the value of RM500,000. RM500,000 will not have a value if it stands alone. 

Same goes with your life. You got to link it with something. Relate your life with somethings good so that your life will have a good value. 

Perkenan Waadat

Maka sembahlah Demang Lebar Daun, " Adapun Tuanku segala anak cucu patik sedia akan jadi hamba ke bawah Duli Yang Dipertuan; hendaklah ia diperbaiki oleh anak cucu duli Tuanku. Dan jika ia berdosa, sebesar-besar dosanya pun, jangan difadhilatkan, dinistakan dengan kata-kata yang jahat;jikalau besar dosanya dibunuh, itupun jikalau berlaku pada hukum syarak".

Maka titah Sang Sapurba, "Akan pinta bapa itu hamba kabulkanlah, tetapi hamba minta satu janji pada bapa hamba". Maka sembah sembah Demang Lebar Daun, "Janji yang mana itu Tuanku?".

Maka titah Sang Sapurba, "Hendaklah pada akhir zaman kelak anak cucu bapa hamba janagan derhaka pada anak cucu kita, jikalau ia zalim dan jahat pekerti sekalipun".

Maka sembah Demang Lebar Daun, "Baiklah, Tuanku. tetapi jikalau anak buah Tuanku dahulu mengubahkan dia, maka anak cucu patik pun mengubahkanlah".

Maka titah Sang Sapurba, "Baiklah, kabullah hamba akan waadat itu".

Sumber: W.G Shellabear (1995), Sejarah Melayu

Reading and Life...

I like to dedicate this entry to a friend.

I love reading. Books, magazine, comics, manga. As long as it suits me, I'll read it. Though its alway the same story, but the ingredients to make the story is usually not the same. In the end, its not how the story end that concern me, but always the things in the story that I read.

Same goes to life then for me. I plan, but I'm not into the outcome that much. I live by the moment. I try to enjoy life now, rather than worrying about what will happen next. Carefully I'll pick up whatever can be used through my life, thinking that it will be useful in the future.

SatuHidup

Dalam mencari, kadangkala kita tersesat. Dalam menangguk ikan, biasanya tertangguk pasir. Jadi, kesimpulannya, tidak semua yang kita inginkan akan tercapai. Tetapi dalam pada itu, jangan berputus asa. Kerana pada putus asa itu, adanya syaitan yang akan membawa kita pergi lebih jauh dari simpang hidup yang sepatutnya kita lalui. Hakikatnya, hidup ini adalah keinginan dan kurniaan Allah Taala. Tunaikan hidup ini mengikut hak yang ditetapkan dan semoga kita diletakkan bersama mereka yang telah selamat diuji dan diberi rahmatNya.

One iftar moment..

Yesterday, as usual, I was breaking fast alone in one of my favourite restaurant, when a couple of teenagers came in holding hand, wearing inappropriate clothes (for Ramadhan). "...At least, cover your cleavage la, girl.. that one was so obvious...". The boy was so proud with his coloured mohican style hair, since he kept "rubbing" it, literally. When the iftar was timed, all the customers read their doa and calmly ate their food. But not those two. They have this loud "sounds". Whether it was coming from their mouth or their nosetrils, I can't identified. Whatever. After sometimes, the boy stood up to take a tissue box from another table. And it happened that he bonged one of the chairs. One word came out from his mouth and it was "Allah!". I appreciated that. Well, at least he still remember, the One Who Created him. And at least I can still find and see a good side for another person..